Normally, you wouldn’t use “raw, mind-blowing sex” and “meditation” in the same sentence. However, evidence suggests there to be quite a formidable connection between the two.
Traditionally, meditation is associated with spirituality and forms of asceticism, which is why its effects on sex haven’t been explored as deeply as they should. However, it is a fact that meditation makes men last longer in bed and helps women enjoy the art of lovemaking more.
How does it do that? We explain the connection between sexual pleasure and meditation in this article.
Meditation Helps You Be More Engaged
Meditation can help us be better tuned in to our senses and more engaged as a result. If you spend some time practicing it, you’ll find it gives you enhanced awareness and emotional intelligence in intimacy and in many other experiences. You discover this enhanced awareness in new ways with all your senses taking part every time. You are present in the here and now. You are less focused on the destination – the orgasm – than on the journey to it. You’re more aware of your and your partner’s experiences.
Being too focused on coming actually prevents women from doing so and makes men last shorter. Something else that keeps both men and women from orgasming is the inability to really be present during sex. We don’t feel as much pleasure then. In particular, there is decreased blood flow to the vagina. With a shift of focus in the right direction, you can achieve amazing results.
Meditation Boosts our Hormones
Meditation boosts the release of serotonin and dopamine, which are hormones that drive sexual energy. It makes us feel more alive and energetic and can even improve the quality of sleep.
Reduces Stress
There are so many reasons to feel stressed out: money, work, relationships, and a multitude of possible circumstances. Stress is the main reason people take up meditation to begin with. Against the backdrop of constant tension and pressure, sex is the last thing on our minds. Stress leads to elevated cortisol levels with the consequence of decreased sexual desire and performance.
A study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine showed that women whose cortisol levels were above a given threshold were incapable of having an orgasm. By reducing cortisol levels, meditation can increase desire and improve performance. Thus, decreased stress translates to better, more intense orgasms in both men and women.
Meditation Augments the Art of Foreplay
Pre-sex rituals like enjoying dinner and a drink together or listening to soothing music did not come from nothing. These practices help people relax and set a sensual mood. The calmer and more relaxed you are before sex, the more you’ll enjoy it and the longer you’ll last. Studies show that the brain starts producing more serotonin and dopamine within just a few days of commencing a meditation practice.
Improved Ejaculation Control
Fear, stress, anxiety, frustration, and worry cause the male body to release high levels of adrenaline. Men’s ability to get and sustain an erection suffers as a result of constricted blood vessels. Men who want to last longer in bed are advised to meditate because the practice boosts the parasympathetic nervous system, which is related to feelings of calmness and relaxation. The sympathetic nervous system, on the other hand, is implicated in feelings of stress and our fight or flight response. It also controls ejaculation. When a man is in high-stress mode, his sexual performance is compromised and he doesn’t last very long in bed, if at all.
If you can learn how to relax your body, this will extend to the muscles involved in ejaculation. Meditation teaches people how to relax all the muscles in their body.
Good Sex and Breathing Techniques
To last in bed, breathing is very important. When we are aroused, we don’t breathe properly and when that happens, muscles get tense. Arousal gets too high to control. To bring it back under control, you need to focus on your breathing. More specifically, breathe deeply from the abdomen, and exhale from the diaphragm.
Admittedly, it’s easier said than done. You can learn to focus on respiration with guided meditation. Even when we’re not making love, we take shallow breaths, which aren’t from the abdomen, but from the lungs and diaphragm. Ultimately, this can harm the respiratory system. This damage is something meditation can help prevent.
Enhanced Self-Awareness
If you want to last longer in bed, being more aware of your body, feelings, and sensations is crucial. This way, you always know what level of arousal you’re on. This is difficult for most men and it’s easy to get to the point of no return. Meditation helps men focus on their partner’s as well as their own sensations. Guided meditation can teach you how to move your focus from one area of your body to another as well as to focus your attention on one specific area.
Both men and women benefit from learning to focus on their sensations. This keeps people’s expectations toward their sex partners from getting excessively high. We are responsible for our own pleasure, our satisfaction, and our happiness. People will look for fulfillment externally when they don’t have other ways to access happiness.
You’re bound to feel disappointed if you’re always looking to your partner to give you a fulfilling sexual experience. Nothing external is capable of providing access to your bliss. As clichéd as it sounds, happiness comes from the inside. If you are mostly fulfilled, a sexual experience in a satisfying relationship can be a way to get you to 100%.
Meditation Teaches You to Live in the Here and Now
To paraphrase Jonathan Swift, few seek happiness in the present; most wait for the future to bring it to them. Helped by meditation, you can learn to breathe deeply, relax your body, and focus on your sensations. If you want to last longer in bed, all of these skills are imperative because the road to raw, mind-blowing sex starts with achieving control over your body and mind.
References
- http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2703719/
- http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0926641001001069
- https://www.bustle.com/p/how-meditation-can-do-wonders-for-your-sex-life-69419 http://www.articlebiz.com/article/1051491923-1-the-strange-benefit-of-meditation-for-lasting-longer-in-bed/
- https://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-16857/5-ways-meditation-can-help-you-have-mindblowing-sex.html
